INFPs are a personality type with high ideals and a pure heart.
That is why many of them find it difficult to live in the real world.
Here I would like to focus on how to overcome such problems for INFPs.
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Little presence, but passionate
INFP, interpreted according to Jung’s theory, probably refers to the following psychological types.
Introverted intuitive type
The superior function is intuition.
The auxiliary functions are feeling and thinking,
but feeling is stronger than thinking.
Below is a diagram that illustrates the above.
In this type, sensation is the inferior function.
Incidentally, Jungian theory explains that when the superior function is extroverted, the other three functions are introverted.
And conversely, when the superior function is introverted, the other three are extroverted.
(In the MBTI, only the interpretation of introversion follows this rule.)
However, the MBTI interprets it differently from the above Jungian theory, which is shown in the table below.
|INFP in MBTI|
I describe personality types on this site with four letters, “just like the MBTI.
However, I follow Jung’s theory as much as possible when explaining personality theories.
This is because we believe that those who have studied the MBTI up to now can broaden (or change?) their thinking by learning the original and correct Jung’s theory.
But it deviates considerably from Jungian theory in the case of introverts.
INFPs are usually idealistic because of their well-developed intuition.
Therefore, they tend to have ideals and longings for various things.
・Imagine an ideal life.
・Search for an ideal job
・Dream of an ideal self
However, since they are introverts by nature, they don’t honestly show their innermost feelings to others.
Therefore, they are the type who hold various dreams and ideals but keep them all in their minds.
They also have relatively strong feeling functions and tend to keep a variety of feelings in themselves.
In other words, their hearts are filled with ideals and emotions.
To understand this type, it may be easier to think of the situation of “one-sided therefore unrequited love,” for example.
When you fall in love with someone, the other person you see from your point of view becomes more and more “idealized.”
For example, an ordinary woman may seem like a goddess or an ordinary man may seem like a prince, and so on.
However, you can never convey what’s in your heart.
The INFP type may resemble the psychological situation of such “unrequited love”.
Some INFPs are usually quiet and have little or no presence.
But as I mentioned earlier, their hearts are filled with many emotions.
So once you open the lid of their hearts, they can be more romantic than anyone else, or more radical thinkers than anyone else.
This gap between the outside and the inside is one of the characteristics of the INFP’s personality.
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Gap Between Ideal and Reality
INFPs are generally tolerant and seldom condemn others.
They also show some understanding of opinions and ideas that differ from their own.
However, they have very high standards for themselves and tend to believe that they are immature and have yet to reach their ideals.
This is probably due to the perfectionism that is common among idealists.
Therefore, they always try to achieve the perfect ideal, but the ideal is hard to reach.
And they think the reason for this is their lack of effort.
This may be a typical example of a person who suffers from the gap between the ideal and reality.
Thus INFPs often go through life with the feeling that “life is hard”.
But they need to realize that the “hard life” they feel is an illusion in their minds.
That illusion can be erased at any time by their own will.
Then life will be a lot easier.
So what should they do to achieve this?
INFPs have stronger intuition than sensation.
In these cases, it is difficult to fully activate the sensation.
But instead, they can develop auxiliary functions (in Jungian theory).
In the case of INFPs, these auxiliary functions are feeling and thinking.
(However, this interpretation is different from MBTI theory.)
In INFPs, thinking is weaker than feeling, but it can still be developed somewhat.
So, if they develop this thinking a little more in particular, they will be able to organize their minds logically.
Another problem is a lack of a sense of reality.
In order not to be tormented by illusions in the brain, it is important to get into the habit of seeing things realistically.
The key to this is sensation, but as mentioned above, it is extremely difficult for INFPs to develop a sensation.
However, it is necessary to be aware that sensation is a weakness.
This is because only with this awareness, the sensation will begin to work a little better.
The following article explains how INFPs can awaken sensation and recover their sense of reality.
Not Good at Saying “No”
INFPs are basically “intuition people”, but at the same time, they are a type with well-developed feelings.
However, it is important to know the difference between this type and the extroverted feeling type.
Extroverted feeling types express their feelings of joy, anger, sadness, and anger, and actively seek to share their feelings with those around them.
INFPs, on the other hand, tend to keep their emotions inside themselves.
They also tend to accept other people’s emotions rather than letting them out.
In other words, if anything, they are passive empathizers.
This is best seen in the way INFPs behave in the workplace.
INFPs don’t voluntarily take the initiative to do anything.
In that sense, they are really like employees with little presence.
But suppose someone asks an INFP for a favor.
Then, the INFP thinks,
“Finally, they noticed my presence.
and they will work hard.
Eventually, the colleagues realize that the INFP is “unexpectedly” competent.
Moreover, they notice that the INFP is kind enough not to refuse a favor when asked.
And so they ask the INFP for favors, one after another.
Actually, INFPs cannot refuse a request, no matter how busy they are.
This is because they can “sympathize” with the feelings of others who are in need, and they feel that it would be bad for them if they were to refuse.
But eventually, they reach a mental limit, and one day they finally snap.
In truth, they should have consulted someone or explained their situation to others before it happened, but they are unable to do so, partly because they are introverts.
So, they continue to endure until they reach their limits.
Have you ever seen a quiet person at work suddenly snap and leave the workplace?
This is a similar situation.
And those left behind will be surprised as follows:
“What happened to that person?”
INFPs can learn how to communicate their thoughts logically and clearly in the following article.
Learn How to Make Money!
Perhaps the biggest worry for INFPs is choosing a job.
Many people on the Internet give irresponsible advice to INFPs, such as “you should become an artist” or “you have the potential to be a fortune teller”.
It is impossible to live a financially comfortable life in such a profession.
For INFPs, it is more important to find a job where they can easily make money than to simply get a job that fits them.
Please refer to the following article for ideas on how to achieve that.
Summary of INFP type
If INFPs want to change their lives, the first step is to understand themselves objectively.
Let me conclude with a summary of the INFP personality.
●Usually quiet but actually passionate.
●Often suffers from the gap between the ideal and reality.
●Not Good at Saying “No”
●Low self-esteem because of perfectionism.
●Find a job that pays, not an ideal job!